I don’t talk about my marriage, short as it was, very much, but if I had stayed married, I would be observing my Silver Wedding Anniversary as I pen this week’s blog.

My marriage was cut short not because of death, but because I elected to do so. I was a victim of domestic violence. Literally a few hours after we said, “I do”, my then-husband’s behavior changed in a rash way.

There is not a doubt in my mind that if I had remained married, I would be dead. No doubt at all.

Statistics show that in the United States, between 1 out of every 3 and 1 out of every 4 women is, has been, or will be a victim of domestic violence. It is an epidemic, far more prevalent to COVID.

I was blessed in that I had the support of many friends, as well as my parents, to divorce my then-husband. Many women are not that fortunate, so they have little or no choice to to remain in a frightening marriage.

If you are currently a member of the one in three or one in four, I implore you to reach out for help. Now. Tomorrow may be too late.

Copyright, May 24, 2021 by Rebecca A. Henderson

2 thoughts on “A Quarter Century Ago….

  1. How awful that you suffered through this ordeal…grieving for the pain you endured, physically and emotionally. But praising God that He gave you the courage, support, and strength to leave. He has redeemed your life in such a powerful way, rescuing you to be a light to others in our community. You are brave to reveal this in print, and may it call others to rely on God for true freedom. Thank you for choosing to make a difference in our community as a gracious servant and friend.


  2. Rebecca,
    I praise you for your courage to discuss your very personal life events, this willingness to speak out may save someone else’s life ? I want to encourage others who may be going thru the same situation in their life to seek out help. These individuals who attack or berate their spouses aren’t men, they are nothing more than cowards who should never be allowed to get away from their crimes. May God bless you .


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